Saturday, May 22, 2010

Is it weird / tacky to have no bridesmaids / groomsmen but have a flower girl & ring bearer?

My fiance and I have never had any close friends, just us all through school. If I had bridesmaids, they would be my cousins that I never see and they haven't really even known me during my relationship with him.


So since we have a cute little ring bearer and a flower girl do we need anything else?


Any suggestions on how to go about the actual wedding part (which will take place outside) without "attendants" in the line up? I don't want people to think we have no friends! We're nice people!

Is it weird / tacky to have no bridesmaids / groomsmen but have a flower girl %26amp; ring bearer?
no, its not weird. i've seen it before, my friend had a ringbearer and flower girl but no bridesmaids/groomsmen. i think they are just for show. I never really knew what they're for anyway...?
Reply:Weddings are becoming so NON traditional these days so I wouldn't worry a bit about not having bridesmaids %26amp; groomsmen. I think it will make the ceremony seem more intimate with just the two of you up there. My suggestion would be for the ring bearer %26amp; flower girl to walk down together %26amp; sit down at the front. It might be a little akward with them being the only ones standing with you at the front. Good luck!
Reply:That sounds perfect!
Reply:I think its a great idea. It will avoid all the drama and expense of the bridal party. You can have 2 family members sign as witnesses after. There is no reason to have them all and i have in fact been to a wedding where there was no bridal party and it was lovely. It was formal with music and flowers and fancy but no b party.
Reply:I think it sounds simple and beautiful. The people that will


be there are the only ones that should be, and the only


two people you should care about are you and your future


husband. The whole thing is to celebrate your love and


not proper or improper wedding etiquette. Have a long


and happy life together.
Reply:Not at all, why bother having bridesmaids if you don't have close friends, they are not a legal requirement so you can have as many or as few as you like.
Reply:Sounds like it's perfect for you. And it is YOUR wedding. Don't worry about the attendants. Let's see, the bride's attendant usually adjusts her dress and holds her flowers during the actual ceremony. Your mom or a friend can do the former (or choose a dress that doesn't need adjusting) and the flower girl can do the latter. Assuming a ring bearer has the rings, the best man doesn't do much, anyway.
Reply:You have to have at least 2 people to sign the marriage licenses at witnesses. I didn't want attendants either. I have 1 best man and 1 maid of honor, that's it. Just get one of each that you are somewhat close to. Good luck and best wishes!
Reply:I think it'll look really sweet with just the two of you up there...there's no one more important in the relationship than you two.


and the kids will look adorable. everything will be perfect this way :)
Reply:no, its just not traditional.
Reply:This is your wedding so do as you please. I think it will look fine with just a flower girl and ring bearer. As for my wedding coming up we are not having any bridesmaids or groomsmen either. You want your wedding to be "your own". So you don't have to go by the book you know?
Reply:I worked as a wedding photographer for five years. Having no bridal party except for the flower girl and the ring bearer is more common than you think. I've had more than twenty such cases. It is YOUR wedding day, who cares what they think! All you really need is your spouse and the clergy/justice. Good luck on your wedding plans!
Reply:No, I think it would be just fine. I have been to several weddings where there was no bridesmaids/groomsmen. During the ceremony more focus will be on you and your future hubby. It could be a very intimate wedding and if you have no bridesmaids/groomsmen in it, it will have more of that kind of feeling.


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